Tuesday 1 May 2018

Older not Wiser



One of my teenagers has split up with his girlfriend of 3 years and I am feeling bereft.
It;s not the first time we've seen the end of a long term teenage relationship in this house and previous experience, had, I thought, taught me not to get too attached. I was wrong.

I realise that as the mum of 3 sons, I possibly, invest too much in their girlfriends, as I am lacking in "Girly stuff" on a day to day basis. And I did love this girl. She was, she is, absolutely lovely and although I understand why their relationship had to end, I miss her.
 As my eldest son pointed out, when teenagers enter into long term relationships at 15/16, we as parents, get to see a lot of them and share in events like, Proms, GCSE results, 18th birthdays etc,and they become a part of the family and their face forever in milestone family pictures.

My husband helpfully pointed out that with three children we could potentially see a lot more break ups and statistically, a couple of divorces!
 Oh, the confusion, of resenting a son you love for splitting up with someone you've grown so fond of.
 So , as I say, Older but certainly not Wiser!  EJ